Kanchan Sagar similar to her name proves herself as a Gold. She is one of the well-known social activists of the Panipat District of Haryana and also a Founder and President of NGO “Nari Kalyan Samiti”.For her age is just a number. She is also a Zonal Club Coordinator of Distt 308 and Chartered President of Innerwheel Club Panipat Midtown. At this age also, she is super active and inspired others on how to live life. Along with social work, she also actively participates in cultural programs organized by different groups.
Her motto of life is:-
“Think Ahead and Aim High with flexibility, tolerance, enthusiasm, and a positive vision of the future.”
Her journey in itself inspires others that how one should not stop by worrying about trouble and should keep moving forward.
Kanchan was born after one year of the sad demise of her parent’s eldest son. As soon as she born she got all love and affection from them. She was the eldest one among three sisters and two brothers. Her parents were not so educated but they tried to give the best education to all of them. Even her father did not know in which standard their kids were. He always supported them financially.
Despite a weak financial position, her parents nourished them with every possible way they could do. She completed her early schooling from English Medium School while the high school was from Government School.
Her father gave them financial independence but he was rigid too. He did not allow her and her younger sisters to wear anything else apart from a salwar suit. Being an elder one she used to do all house chores. Either it was buying groceries from the market or some other work. She used to go on a bicycle to school and to market also. She did everything that an elder boy of the family does.
At a very young age, she was taught how to take care of younger brothers and sisters. From childhood, she used to see in the house that whenever someone used to come to ask for something, the mother used to let him sit and feed him, then bid farewell with some charity. From this, she learned the virtues of social service. Her mother was also an expert in crochet work.
Being the elder sibling to four brothers and sisters, she learnt the responsibility of being a trusted leader at a very young age.
Her parents treated her as their son and everyone in the house and gave her full respect.
She was proficient in household and other activities and always tried to help her mother in every way possible. When she was in college, during her free period, she used to come home with her friends to share her hands in her mother’s work. They all used to make jams, cook food, and even do sweeping also. Her mother too loved them a lot.
A buffalo was kept in their house, she and her younger sister used to compete who would make a “Gutawa” (a type of food for buffalo) for him. They never bothered their mother for anything.
“Families are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights and our comfort when we occasionally falter”~Brad Henry
When she was in B.A Final year, someone from Bhopal came to their house to see her for marriage. At that time she was in college and her mother asked a boy from the neighborhood to bring some snacks and sweets from the market as her father did not have any conveyance and there was no one elder in the family. They departed after having lunch and tea. Her father asked about their opinion and they said “We will discuss with family and then let you know”. The very next day they refused for the relationship as she was not fair.
“A strong woman accepts both compliments and criticism graciously, knowing that it takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow”~Unknown
In 1971 she completed her graduation in Home Science from Arya College, Panipat. During her graduation she also completed three parts of certificate course of NCC Girls Division (Senior Wing). After graduation she got admission in B.Ed at Khanpur Kalan, Sonipat. At the time of admission, one of their neighbor accompanied her as a guardian.
“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform”~Diane Mariechild
After some time her father’s aunt came to Panipat and asked her father to get her to marry but her father denied by saying that “Could not find a suitable match for her” then his aunt suggested that boy who brought snacks for guests but her father refused it by saying “They are from different caste”. But after convincing by his aunt her father agreed.
JOURNEY POST MARRIAGE
In the year 1973, she completed her B.Ed and in the year 1975, she got marry to that boy to whom her father rejected. She believed it was her good Karma that she married to a Gem like a person who is equally devoted, empathetic, and enthusiastic about social work.
After one month of marriage, they shifted to Delhi as her husband was in a job there. His CA wasn’t completed at that time and he was working at some CA Firm in Lajpat Nagar, Delhi. At the time of marriage, her husband took some loans as an advance salary from his principle.
In Delhi her husband and his younger brother used to live in a rented apartment at a rent of Rs 350/- P.M. It became difficult to bear EMI of home, household expenses, and rent of the apartment. After 40 days of marriage, she took off her “Chura” herself and went for an interview in a school in Adarsh Nagar and got selected. Her husband used to drop her at school while going to the office.
The principal of the school was a very nice lady when she came to know that Kanchan is newly married and living far away from school then she insisted her to find someplace at nearby places. After 15 days they found a two-room apartment near to school at Rs 275/- P.M. She also encouraged her to start giving tuitions in the evening.
Her younger sister-in-law also came from Panipat to share her hands. They were able to stay there only for about nine months. It became difficult to meet expenses. Then they left that house and she left her job and moved to a rented apartment in Janakpuri at Rs. 130/- P.M.
“A strong woman looks a challenge dead in the eye and gives it a wink”~Gina Carey
After some time there was good news that she is pregnant but at the very next moment, she got upset as her family insisted her to come to Panipat for regular check-ups and delivery. She did not want to move to Panipat because there were great career opportunities in Delhi. But determined people do not care about the way to the destination. She was determined and with a heavy heart, she returned to Panipat. Her father-in-law used to take tuition in Panipat. He discussed the job for her husband to one of his student’s fathers, which was accepted with pleasure.
On 30 June 1976, they moved to Panipat with all their essentials and after that, they could not go back to Delhi. Their eldest son was born on 8 July 1976 and in the very same year in the month of July, her husband cleared CA. That was the happiest moment for her.
Their financial conditions were not improving, the expenditures were increasing. Her son was now two years old. She got herself enrolled in the employment office. Soon after she was called for an interview from Kendriya Vidyalaya. This was a temporary job of 6 months. She affirmed. After joining that job her mother in law and sometimes her mother took care of her son. She also did a temporary job in MASD Public School, Panipat
Their second son was born on 5 June 1980. She did a job on an Ad-hoc basis for six months five times as did not allow to do a permanent job as a family always said “There is no need”. She always got the full support of her Father-in-Law also. He used to help her in house chores even helped her to cut vegetables also. She believed “My house was built with his help”.
Gradually their financial position started improving. Her husband set up his own practice and she occupied her with social services.
She herself enrolled her husband for the membership of Rotary Club Panipat. They started going to the club and start attending meetings.
In the year 1987, she joined Inner wheel Club, Panipat. On 10 January 1990, a medical camp was organized and she could not go home as she was managing that camp. Her younger son was also not well at that time. Then her mother came to see her, as soon as her mother reached the place, all senior citizens presented there, started appreciating her dedication in front of her mother. Her mother was feeling proud of her. After that nobody stopped her again for social service.
On 1 July 1990, she was elected as “President of the Inner wheel Club”. After that day, she did not look back.
In the year 1997, she established Inner Wheel Club Panipat Mid Town and also established her NGO by the name “Nari Kalyan Samiti” in August 1997.
She used to help parents of poor girls to get them to marry with the help of the other member of Samiti. Those moments used to fill her eyes with tears of happiness when parents of girls used to touch her feet by giving her status of “GOD”.
She made a separate identity of her in society. She ran “New Madhuban Public School” as Director and Principal for ten years. In that school, many children were given free education.
She organized Medical camps, provide vocational training to poor girls to empower them, provide school fees to needy students, wheelchairs to the disabled, donated goods in the blind school, fulfilling the needs of children in the orphanage. She did so much that was impossible at that time being a woman. The happiness she got from social service was not found by anything else.
The happiest people I know are those who lose themselves in the service of others.~Gordon B. Hinckley
Now she became popular among local areas. The administration got a clue and she started being honored.
In the year 1991, she awarded by Ms. Minna Kapoor (President International Innerwheel ) for the “Maximum Projects done for Humanity”.
During the mid of the ’90s, there was the local cable channel by the name of “Siti Cable”. She started taking interviews of doctors, professionals for that cable channel and also started a program of narrating knowledgeable stories to the children for that channel itself, by this people started calling her “Tabbsum of Panipat”. She also took the cooking classes.
In the year 1999, her elder son got married and in the year 2000 she blessed with granddaughter and in the year 2004 her younger son got married.
In the year 2003-2004, she released two books on Yoga and Naturothepy and for the same honored by Association President Roshan E Chindy and District Chairman Ms Saroj Kakkar
She was happy in her own life. Blessed with grandchildren, loyal sons and daughters-in-law and supportive and caring husband. What else anyone needs for a happy life. But happiness never comes alone. 30 June 2005, was the black night in her life. Her husband’s heartbeat was increased and he was not feeling well. They took him to the nearby hospital. The next day was Sunday. On the same day, due to some unavoidable circumstances, a rented house was bought in a hurry. They shifted there with some essential clothes. The younger son and daughter-in-law were also together. They slept on the floor down there for some days.
The wheel of time turned. On the one hand in the year 2006, God blessed her with grandson and on the other hand, their two factories reached the verge of closure. The partner cheated on her husband and they came from hail to the floor. Then she opened up a boutique and also let her younger daughter in law go for B.Ed along with that help her to get a job in a private school.
They started again from a new beginning and started running life on the old track.
No Matter how hard the past is, you can always begin again~Buddha
For her boutique, she used to bring readymade suits and unstitched clothes from the 2-3 shopkeepers of the city and they promised her to take back those materials which will not sell or remain with her. She had not much cash so used to buy all stock or material on credit also had one sewing machine and, borrowed one from her sister and hired Tailors. She knew everyone and also famous among society. So it helped her to set up her boutique.
For the first time, she was sitting there in the auto because goods had to be brought from the market. It used to be dark until she returned, so she used to talk to her brothers to drop her if someone is going home. Her mother asked her to learn cutting and tailoring from Tailor. She did everything like to put buttons on the chemise and to trump etc.
She also loved writing articles and started sending her articles to be published in various newspapers. To her surprise one day a cheque of Rs. 151/- arrived at her home by her name which brought tears in her eyes out of happiness. They were worth more than anything at that time. Gradually she started receiving Rs. 500/- per article.
On 26th January 2008, She honored by administration for her social services.
They had already taken the plot with their savings a few times back. Now they borrowed from the bank and made two rooms and shifted to a new house to save rent. By the time her younger daughter in law completed her B.Ed and appointed as a teacher. Due to her husband being a chartered accountant, there was no chance of starving.
“Work harder than you think you did yesterday”~Alex Elle
They had a bread manufacturing factory which also started going into losses that were beyond comprehension. Then one day, it also had to sell.
She and her husband were known to everyone in the city. Everyone knew the situation inside out and encouraged them. A friend of them had asked them to mortgage his plot to help them but they refused.
She believed that “The nine planets have great importance in everybody’s life. They keep moving. Sometimes sunshine, sometimes shades, sometimes happiness and sometimes sorrow. But that cycle completed every ten or twelve years”.
Gradually time passed and their financial conditions started improving and she also actively started participating in social works.
In the Year 2015, Dr. Kiran Bedi installed her as the Editor of Innerwheel Club Panipat Midtown
Her husband’s practice is going well and she becomes one of the renowned social activists. For her social activities, she honored with numerous awards.
In the year 2017, she won the title of “Mrs. Panipat” in the age group of above 60 organized by “Dainik Jagran” and also awarded by Ch. Virender Singh (Member of Parliament) at Nirmala Deshpande Pratibha Samriti Samaroh and in March 2019 she awarded by “Haryana Kala Parishad” for “Lala Lakshmi Chand Award” and also awarded for Cancer Awareness Program. On the eve of Women’s Day in the year 2019, she honored for her selfless dedication to social causes.
On 26th January 2019, she was honored by the administration for her social services.
On 15th August 2019, she was honored by the administration as a President of “Nari Kalyan Samiti” for her contribution to society
Under the Prime Minister’s public welfare scheme publicity campaign she was honored for the social work done during the COVID-19 pandemic.
She holds the following positions:-
Zonal Club Coordinatior of Distt 308
President of Nari Kalyan Samiti
Senior Member of Community Liaison Group- A SP Branch
Ex-Principal of New Madhuban Public School,Panipat
Ex-Secretary of Bhartiya Mahilla Kalyan Samiti
Ex-President of Haryana Kung Fu Association
Ex-President of Haryana Cricket Association
Life member of Heart to Heart Society,Chandigarh
Life member of Red Cross,Panipat
Core Member of Sabko Roshni Foundation
महिला विंग संयोजिका – सर्व सेवा संगठन
Her Fundaa of Life is:-
Vision without action is a dream, Action without vision is simply passing the time, Action with vision is making a positive difference.
Mini Bhatia is Chartered Accountant by profession and blessed mother of twins. She is doing her own practice in Delhi. Writing is her passion.